Your Inner Terrorist

Tools for Taping the Mouth Shut on Your Inner Critic

Is a constant negative running commentary limiting your ability to enjoy your life?
Love your job?
Be positive in your relationships? 
Treat yourself kindly?

Research indicates that the average person’s brain receives about 60,000 thoughts per day. And according to those researchers 80% of those messages are negative. The script or recording that plays is habitual thinking. It is as second nature to us as breathing and is an unconscious habit.

We are deeply conditioned to habitually provide a label and are unaware of our programming. We don’t think about it. It just exists. They are gut reactions and conditioned responses. Our labels.  

We’ve been conditioned by media, our environment, by messages from parents and peers. We make continual judgement calls habitually without thinking, day in, day out. We make assessments about appearances or preconceived notions or assumptions about others. (Don’t believe me? Do some research on first impressions.) We do it with every person around us every day, on an unconscious level. We do it in response to conversations. We do it about people we don’t know.  And we do it to ourselves. I do it.

For example, if I come to work and a co-worker is distant or moody, I assume it’s either something I’ve done (or not done) or that he doesn’t like me or that she’s just being ’a witch’.

Or, while trying on clothes in the dressing room at a major department store, after examining my backside in 3D full length mirrors under florescent lighting, I proceed to berate myself for every mouthful of anything other than brocoli I’ve ever put in my mouth.

Or, we power struggle with our spouses, children and in-laws …
Think we know what’s best for everyone else …
Feel like the world is out to get us …
Or wish we had more money, less wrinkles and two weeks in Hawaii like that bitch Diane whose damn husband is made of money.See, what I mean? Don’t you feel terrorized?

As women we’re often quite good at being loving, appreciative and patient with others – but less so with ourselves. When we are not loving and forgiving of ourselves it creates a mood within us that makes it difficult to be loving and forgiving of those around us.

Up until this point in your life, your Inner Terrorist (or Inner Terrorists, cause most of us have more than one) has controlled your thoughts. As a result you’ve probably developed a thought and behavior habit of responding to this Inner Terrorist that affects – in some way – your life and the lives of those around you.

But, what if by becoming aware of your inner terrorist and by learning how to tame that renegade recording, you could experience peace of mind, a calm centre and be more loving and patient with yourself?

Is it possible that your inner calm would naturally radiate out to others?

JOIN ME FOR A WORKSHOP

TUESDAY, APRIL 20, 2010
HOLIDAY INN 67th, Red Deer, Alberta
Frontier Room

Workshop A: 9:00am – 11:30am ($45.00 includes GST, Coffee and mid-morning snack)
Workshop B: 12:00pm – 3:00pm ($45.00 includes GST and lunch)

 You will learn:
           - which five inner terrorists hold our happiness hostage 
           – tools for taping the mouth shut on your inner critic
           - and will receive resources to take home

Email cjberube@shaw.ca to reserve your space or call    (403) 896-3332   (403) 896-3332